International Women’s Day

March 8, 2009 10:29 am · By Greg · 23 Comments

In the US, March is National Women’s History Month. It began as Women’s History Week back in 1978 when the Education Task Force for the Sonoma County (California) Commission for the Status of Women created a week-long event to promote the contributions of women throughout history. The task force chose a week to coincide with March 8th—today—celebrated annually as International Women’s Day.

If you didn’t know today is International Women’s Day, you’re not alone. The day doesn’t receive much attention, but people like me are partly to blame: we say we support equal rights but do nothing to promote them.

I’m working on that, beginning by educating myself. A friend last week found me reading a book. He read the cover and gave me gave me a look. “Dude,” he said.
    “Yeah?”
    “Why are you reading Full Frontal Feminism?”
    I looked at him: “Because I’m a feminist.”
    Silence.
    “Admittedly,” I told him, “I’m not a very good one. Probably a lousy one, actually, but I’m working on that.”
    More silence.
    So I talked about the book a bit, told him what the author, Jessica Valenti, had discussed throughout the chapters I’d read so far.
    “She has a website,” I told him.
    “Who?”
    “Jessica Valenti. She founded a site called Feministing.”
    “Feministing?”
    “Dot com,” I said. “Yes.”
    “And you’re a feminist.”
    I nodded. “Men can be feminists,” I told him. “Anybody can be a feminist.”
    Silence.
    I said, “I think you should be a feminist.”
    He bobbed his head contemplatively. “OK. So you’re a feminist.”
    “Yes,” I said.
    “And I’m a feminist.”
    “You should give it some thought at least.”
    He shrugged. “OK. Now what?”

Valenti says in Full Frontal Feminism that many feminists reject the idea of men joining the movement. Their concern: men will want to take control. Others oppose men even calling themselves feminists, believing that only a person who experiences life as a woman can truly understand feminism. I’ll concede that much: no man can know what it’s like to live life as a woman, but it seems counterproductive to resist his support if he’s sincere. That’s Valenti’s take: “As far as I’m concerned, they can call themselves whatever they want, so long as they’re down to do the feminist work.”

And that’s the thing: telling someone privately, “I support equal rights,” really isn’t enough. It’s a nice gesture, but this is an issue where actions are important. That brings us back to my friend’s question: Now what?

Valenti points to feminist blogger and academic Hugo Schwyzer who says that men can’t just preach gender justice: “We have to live it out in our actions, and we have to be willing to do so publicly, as role models.”

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“Senator Pritchard, hi,” I say, speaking to the answering machine of Sen. Bill Pritchard, R-Elkins. It’s Saturday afternoon. “I’m writing a piece for the Fayetteville Flyer about Sunday being International Women’s Day. I know you voted against the Equal Rights Amendment in committee this past week, and that the measure failed by a single vote. I also know you’re quoted in the Northwest Arkansas Times as saying you don’t believe women are discriminated against today. I wanted to give you a chance to expand on that. You can reach me at (I give him my phone number) if you’d like to call me, otherwise I’ll try you later this afternoon. Thanks, Senator.”

In the same Times piece in which Sen. Pritchard questions whether women are discriminated against, he says he’s received a large number of phone calls from constituents who oppose the Equal Rights Amendment. I admit: I didn’t bother to call my local representatives to voice my support prior to the vote. If Sen. Pritchard is to be believed, very few supporters bothered to do so. He’s yet to return my call or email, but—while it might be too late this time—I plan to try to reach Sen. Pritchard today to tell him I support the ERA. You should contact Sen. Pritchard, too. You can email Sen. Pritchard at pritchardb@arkleg.state.us or call him at (479 ) 442-4172. (You can find your representatives by clicking here.)

And if you happen to know someone who identifies herself or himself as a feminist, ask the person about it. There’s no time like today.

[Photo: JIGGS IMAGES via Flickr and Creative Commons 2.0]

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Alannah
March 8, 2009

My Russian students tell me that this is a huge holiday in Russia. It begins on Friday and concludes on Monday. All the men buy flowers, chocolate, and gifts for the women in their lives.

Hmm….wonder why it never took off here…

MANIMAL
March 8, 2009

You women have a day….in Febuary I think…..and mothers day….and uhhh

Scott Stapp of Creed
March 8, 2009

MANIMAL, you are without question the single best poster on the Fayetteville Flyer.

George
March 9, 2009

Alannah – You seem to be implying that Russian men are more progressive on this issue than American men. From what I have heard, that’s a stretch to say the least. All the flowers and chocolates in the world can’t make up for the human rights abuses that women have suffered there (workplace exploitation, rise in forced prostitution, etc). Let’s not pin them up as beacons of feminism just yet.

a. brown
March 9, 2009

I don’t think Women’s Day is supposed to be anything like Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day. It’s a celebration of women’s achievements, based not on our relationship to men or children, but in relation to the world. Valentine’s Day is probably the opposite of the National Day of Women since it makes us into slobbering fools who’ll put out for a $6 box of cheap candy from Walgreen’s.

Greg
March 9, 2009

The first time I learned of International Women’s Day, I was in Bucharest where it’s widely celebrated, and usually over the course of a few days, because they were still selling flowers, etc., when I was in Belgrade a few days later. The day definitely doesn’t receive that kind of attention here.

Alannah
March 9, 2009

I in no way meant to imply that Russian men are more progressive! HAHAHAHAHA! Whooo. No way.

The “hmm..wonder why it never took off here” comment was just to poke fun at our culture and how I can’t imagine the U.S. ever taking a day to celebrate women.

And I agree completely w/ a. brown.

George
March 10, 2009

Ahh, right on Alannah. I agree with a. brown as well. I think women are flippin awesome…everything about them, but v-day is soooo lame. Crap like that empowers men to be total dicks the entire year with the exception of like 3 days (v-day, b-day, mom’s day?).

Maybe that’s why I’m not into materialistic women. However, if you could get me the contact info on some of those “slobbering fools who’ll put out for a $6 box of cheap candy from Walgreen’s” I would greatly appreciate it.

Brian
March 10, 2009

Women’s Day hasn’t taken off because Hallmark says so.

Leah H.
March 10, 2009

Greg,
Thanks so much for writing about this important issue. Civil rights for African Americans didn’t really start taking off until Caucasians jumped on board and I believe it will be the same with men and women.
George,
I appreciate your desire to support women. But, expressing your desire to manipulate women for your own sexual pursuits isn’t exactly progressive. Wouldn’t the world the world be a better place if people entered into sexual relationships with their eyes wide open, respecting each other as human beings and with complete honesty?

origami snail
March 10, 2009

greg, great post!

i’d like to suggest another way to honor women, support those who help preserve the rights of women: http://www.harpyness.com/2009/03/10/honor-those-who-help-guarantee-womens-rights/

George
March 11, 2009

Jesus Leah…lighten up a little. A. brown made a joking comment and I did the same. I’m actually considerably more old fashioned than that…sometimes to a fault.

You make the comparison to racial struggles, and I can see the parallels. My experience has been that confronting these difficult issues is more productive if people can loosen up, talk openly, joke around, and not have to walk on eggshells worrying about who they might offend.

Women’s rights is a complicated issue because humans are complicated emotional creatures (relatively speaking). Some things are obviously black and white, but there is a big gray area here. Granted some men are clearly insensitive pigs, but I can understand some degree of confusion. Take the appreciation of the female form for example. Is the Fay Flyer perpetuating stereotypes and gender discrimination by covering the charity bikini show at the mall? I personally don’t think so because I don’t feel it is disrespectful to appreciate a woman’s appearance if she chooses to display herself. Others, I’m sure, take offense to this sort of thing. The rules of acceptable conduct can vary, literally, from one woman to the next. I’m just a guy doing the best I can to keep up.

But I digress…Here’s to all you women out there. Much love, respect, and equality.

Total Bastard
March 11, 2009

Oh Lord. Next thing you know they’ll want to drive cars and wear pants and someday vote.

Sombody put a jihad together, stat.

Wait, what? Oh, my bad. This is America.

Carry on with your progressive-ass selves.

What day is “Thank A White Dude” day? We’ve accomplished a little bit of stuff here and there, too. Time to celebrate.

Boggy Creek Creature
March 11, 2009

Women’s day is as sexist as Black History Month is racist.

Gratitude and respect towards all women is an all the time thing, not to be compartmentalized into a day or a month.

And TB? “Thank a white dude” day is the third monday in Feb.

a. brown
March 11, 2009

Wow. It didn’t take long for this thread to get ugly.

@George. Thanks for telling a woman to “lighten up” about your gifts-for-sex joke on a post about the National Day of WOMEN. If not a room of our own, maybe one blog post?

Also, what’s this about a charity bikini contest? I would like to toss a bucket of piss at that.

@Boggy Creek Creature: I agree on Black History Month, but for some reason I don’t feel the same way about IDW because it hasn’t been co-opted by, well, anyone yet. It’s a day women recognize, and I think it’s ok for us to have a day. It isn’t being used to sell cable or groceries or McNuggets.

Todd
March 11, 2009

The “Charity Bikini Contest” in question was actually a “Charity Swimwear Fashion Show” held at the mall last Saturday. Not all were donning bikinis. A few male DJs were involved and modeled some beachwear. I was there as was my wife who took the photos. The Fayetteville Flyer made mention of the charity event in exchange for a plug on 104.9 The X. If there’s still any piss to be tossed, I suppose it can be tossed in my direction. I will be wearing a poncho, though. A thick, piss-proof poncho.

George
March 11, 2009

@Leah H. and a. brown –This really escalated quickly. I sincerely apologize. It was not my intent to offend anyone. I made what I thought was an innocent enough joke. Anyone who knows me well (you kind of know me, amy) would know I was being facetious. Regardless, in hindsight I can see that this obviously is not the proper thread for such tasteless humor. Maybe it’s the anonymity of the internet, maybe it’s the unforgiving directness of the written word, or maybe I’m just more of a dick than I think I am…but I seem to often have foot-in-mouth disease on blogs. Yes you made the original comment, but I realize that you were drawing a contrast between celebration and exploitation, whereas I was simply being crass. Then I got pissy when Leah called me out on it.

I’m not the enemy…at least I don’t think I am. I’m not misogynistic, but I have plenty of room for improvement.

@Todd – Sorry for dragging you into this. I’ll feel really bad if you get a bucket of piss tossed at you. If that happens you can owe me one golden shower…ONE!

Good day.

Boggy Creek Creature
March 11, 2009

“piss-proof poncho” would be an excellent post-punk band name

a. brown
March 12, 2009

Piss dismissed, Todd.

@George. We’re cool. Are you PBR-in-pocket George?

Dustin
March 12, 2009

Piss dismissed is also a pretty good band name. Just saying…

George
March 12, 2009

Hmmm. Not sure if I am PBR-in-pocket George…..but it kind of has a nice ring. My friend and I came to a few of the house shows you guys had and I’ve seen you around town a bit. We didn’t know anyone there. We’re just music fiends looking for a fix. Come to think of it we did come to a show w/ beers in pocket…and it could have easily been PBR. You obviously run with a better class of people than I b/c we took some s$%t about bringing beers to a breakfast show. The muffins were excellent.

a. brown
March 12, 2009

If you caught @#$%, it was probably in good humor, George Beer-in-Pocket.

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